Help! I've got a teenager in my house!

I'm going through the same thing myself. I'm not sure why the are so offensive when we try to talk to them, but I have found that giving teens an allowance helps. Teens need to understand that people have to work for what they get. I went so far as to have my pre-teen fill out an application for the chore he wants to be responsible for. I make him sign an agreement just like a contract. If he doesn't complete his job there are consequences. Therefore, it is his job and he has to work as if it is his job. In return he get's an allowance. I don't buy my kids all the little things I used to because I pay them instead. This gives them a good look as to what it takes to make it in the world. Choices is the key to avoiding the arguments. I hope this helps.

I would highly recommend Love and Logic resources. They are awesome! Basically, it explains to parents how to keep their cool. When you kid screams, if you really loved me, you would fold the laundry, or whatever. You don't argue back, but just say something like, I'm sorry you feel that way. They can't argue with you! Also, you might consider avoiding being the bad guy. What if you texted your teen the chores? Or sent an email? For some reason, that bit of space might make it easier to swallow.