Dealing with Doting Grandparents

Why is that when people become grandparents they seem to forget everything they learned about raising kids properly?  When you were a kid, your folks would never let you eat sweets between meals, and insisted you clean your plate, but when they visit your house, they sneak treats to your kids, etc.  I imagine every parent has had this problem at one time or another; the question is:  How do you deal with it without ruining the relationship with your inlaws, or heaven forbid, your own parents?

I actually have realized I have to pick and choose my battles. In the grand scheme of things my in-laws and parents are older and these moments are more like memories. Some of our parents did not have grandparents to coddle them so is it really worth making them feel bad?

I do not fry food or buy cookies because they get that stuff at Grandma's. Are they overriding your authority when you say only 2 cookies and not 5? Just some food for thought.

Well, my kids are all grown, and now my wife and I are grandparents, and she is determined to spoil Samantha, our granddaughter.  I, on the other hand, will resist it with every fiber of my being.  My grandmother didn't spoil me, she taught me to work hard, respect myself and others, and be a good person, and that's the kind of grandparent I want to be.