Sibling Rivalry-Who gets punished?

Asked by MissMouthy {130}
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4/12/2010 12:25:19 AM

My girls, ages 3 and 5, fight like cats and dogs. Often, the older one antagonizes the younger one until she strikes back. We punish the younger one because hitting and scratching is never okay. But my husband and I disagree on what to do with the older one. Ideas?

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Answered by angelface4 {97}
4/12/2010 12:43:02 AM

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The older one should be punished just like the other one because words can be just as hurtful. If she keeps going until the younger one strikes back it is probably because she knows the 3 year old will get punished. She is in the wrong just as much as the younger one for hitting.

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Answered by nickel {64}
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4/12/2010 12:42:12 AM

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I would punish both of them for fighting. Since they are sisters, give them the same punishment. Make them work together on a project or both go to their room. Just because the younger actually resorted to violence doesn't mean the older one should not be punished. As kids when one of us got in trouble we all did. It helps them work together!

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Answered by givans1980 {198}
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4/12/2010 2:59:07 AM

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We don't punish....we have to do something loving for the other, and I totally agree...both should be involved. Have them make each other's beds or draw each other a picture. Something that takes effort and makes them give love back

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		Kim Smith I would say they both should be punished. The older one for antagonizing and the younger for fighting. Antagonizing is not appropriate behavior, ever. If she continues to do it she will eithe rbecome a bully or antagonize someone bigger. Saturday, July 09, 2011

		Noemi Kline Both should get punished or ones gonna develope a you are moms favorite complex.... And that will develope into a big sibling rivalry... These are the times when they are picking up morals and life lessons. One has to be careful with the unspoken message your sending. Yes its wrong to hit and scratch but its not wrong to defend your self. Saturday, July 09, 2011

		Nicki Chapman I would also punish both and I agree with the above comments 100% Saturday, July 09, 2011

		Stephanie Garcia Both! Saturday, July 09, 2011

		Katrina Harrison I think both should be taught that what they are doing is wrong. Read a book or have them watch a show that is age appropriate for them both to understand. While doing this, explain to them what they should do. Sunday, July 10, 2011