How do I help my toddler deal with the loss of her nanny (that I HATED!)?

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4/12/2010 1:20:39 AM

I recently had to fire a nanny that I really really really disliked. She cared for my toddler daughter very well and was loving towards her, but she abused my credit card and lied to me on several occasions, thus the termination. My daughter misses her and asks to see her sometimes. What's the best way for me to help her through this transition?

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Answered by yingling {311}
4/12/2010 12:30:42 PM

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I would carefully remind her of the good times she had with her nanny. I would not discourage her from remembering those times. Also, don't let your feelings for the nanny show in your response to her. I had a situation with my inlaws that resulted in my daughter asking for them. I was very angry and it showed. I wish I could go back and change that she saw how angry I was.

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		Alycia Jackson um it was very stupid of you to allow an employee to have access to your credit information. And to get too personal with her. Her job was caring for your daughter not you. Sounds like you actually wanted to hire a friend for yourself too and are angry it didnt work out. If she commited fraud w your credit card press charges. As far as your daughter...next time put her first not yourself. This time just tell her things didnt work out and nanny still loves her. Bc she obviously did and does. Your Tuesday, June 28, 2011

		Alycia Jackson also why did you hire someone you didnt like. Thats stupid. Obviously the dislike is pretty recent and you are punishing your daughter in the long run Tuesday, June 28, 2011

		Ruby Card Alycia is right. You should NEVER trust ANYONE with your personal info. And ONLY hire people you KNOW you can trust around your children. LIke possibly family members. Do lots of backround checks on ANYONE you hire as a nanny, get all their info before hiring them and ALWAYS get hidden nanny cams for your home. Tuesday, June 28, 2011

		Kim Smith Wow! I don`t think I would want someone taking care of my children that I can`t trust. Clearly, you trusted this nanny at one point. I think that you did the right thing. I don`t know how old your daughter is, but hopefully she is young enough that she will forget. Maybe you can tell her that there is another little girl that needed the nanny to take care of her. Tuesday, June 28, 2011

		Michele Putman You need to tell her the truth that u were stupid for giving ur credit card to someone who didn`t do what was needed and stole money from u. If u can`t be honest w/ur child now, then u will pay the price later. Tuesday, June 28, 2011

		Shannon Grim WOW, let me start with, straightening out those with the preconceived notion that this parent has extended friends and family at their fingertips, then I`ll move on to say,how do you know this nanny didn`t steal the credit card? This individual is looking for advice as to what to tell her child,not how to run her home. I would go with kims suggestion, and say another child needed her more,or perhaps,she moved. Tuesday, June 28, 2011

		Alycia Jackson Remember guys mom said the nanny took very good care of her daughter and was very loving toward her daughter. She has not pursued fraud charges. So it sounds to me like she either got jealous of nanny or hurt feelings. Either way I think theres more to this. I bet she wanted nanny to be her friend n thats why she gave her the credit card info. It was stupid. This should be about whats best for her daughter. And maybe she didnt even give credit info since she never pursued charges. Were taking he Tuesday, June 28, 2011

		Alycia Jackson she said nanny abused the credit card not stole it. Two very very different things Tuesday, June 28, 2011

		Alycia Jackson apparently she does need some financial advice as well as parenting classes along with some business classes. She asked for the advice. For real. This should have completely stayed about her daughter and not herself. Tuesday, June 28, 2011

		Telika Howard i WISH i had this problem...a nanny...wow...lol Tuesday, June 28, 2011