My toddler is so into his mom that he ignores me (his dad)

Asked by ADMINTODD {1104}
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4/17/2010 5:54:59 PM

I know this is a strange question, and I don't want to sound melodramatic. But my toddler is so into his mom that I can hardly get any interaction time with him without him crying and yelping: "momma, momma." I'm sure it's just a stage of extreme clinginess right now but I can't help feeling continually disappointed that he won't let me play with him and hold him like he does with mom.

Am I being stupid and should I just "man up" here???

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Answered by vbsgrandma2 {134}
4/17/2010 9:23:26 PM

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Bravo!! I am so happy to hear a man come into play. Here is what I have learned. Your Child is getting Mommy attention because Mom does not have to do anything to get it.
Try this. Get one of the favored toys and play with it in front of the Child. He will get angry at first, but if Mom co-operates with you, you will have that little guy eating out of your hands in no time.
It is not going to work in one day, this is something you have to work up to. Tease him some with the toy, do not be mean teasing. If he absolutely throws a fit, give him the toy and go get another one.
Eventually you will have him interested enough to come bringing the toys to you. Always make him feel wanted and loved, but let him do the switch from Mom to Dad and then make sure Mom is included too. Let me know, please. Thanks for being there Dad, there are not a lot who still care.

I think its a great idea to gently coaxed the toddler to his father by using his favorite toy. It is normal for a toddler to cling to his mother at this age. Soon enough he will be all about fishing with his dad. - SeptemberGray 4/17/2010 9:15:18 PM | Flag

That is a great idea. I will try to do that with his little ukulele that I bought him that he's especially fond of. @SeptemberGray - I'll start whistling that theme song to The Andy Griffith Show. And see if that speeds things along. Ha ha. - ADMINTODD 4/17/2010 7:55:46 PM | Flag

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		Joselyn Howe-Marsh mom should help encourage bonding time with you, it helps for them to be social with other kids, caretakers, and family. AND mom gets a break too!!! ;) Monday, December 27, 2010

		Kim Smith Maybe start with the three of you playing together and mom can wander away a little bit. My son loves his daddy but when he is hurt or tired, it`s only mommy. It`s really a stage. Work with it, but don`t get to upset. Monday, December 27, 2010

		Michele Putman Your toddler will grow out of it. Just do more fun things with him. Monday, December 27, 2010

		Lily Mon It is a developmental phase that most children go through. It is quite healthy. My daughter went through and only wanted to be with her father, but now she is with me equally. Your not being stupid and you don`t just need to man up. Just be patient and don`t take it personally. It is not about you. Monday, December 27, 2010

		Sabrina Maouche marias right my boys were all for me! the mom, then when they got of the breast lol. there all for there dad now :) do u play with ur son. maybe take him out just dad & son for somd bonding time one to one : Monday, December 27, 2010