Spanking or time out

Asked by monique {167}
4/20/2010 3:28:59 PM

I know that spanking your child is suppose to be bad but how many women still do it? Does time out work? I was going to try time outs with my child and see if I can have success at that. What does everyone think about time out verse spanking? Who has tried both and which one works the best?

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Answered by Panini {160}
4/20/2010 4:57:38 PM

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I love that you asked this question and im interested in what responses you will get. I personally am NOT a spanker. Ive spanked my girls maybe 3-4 times and hated it. We have a naughty corner. They do 3 and 2 minutes. Does it always work the first time ? NO. It takes alot of being consistent and patience on your end. There have been mornings when they have been in the corner 3-4 times before 10 am. I dont feel responding to a negitive behavior with a spank is right for my kids. How can i ask them to properly express themselves with words and tell me whats fustrating them, and then I spank them for bad behavior. Or how can I expect them not to hit or hurt someone when they are angry but when Im angry with them I give them a swat on the butt. Some people do it and it works for them. I personally just like to try the alternative. We have had great outcome with the naughty corner and i have spread it along to alot of our friends.

I totally agree. If you do not want your children to hit, how can you as a parent use physical discipline? It doesn't work. Of course, I could take it a step further and say that what really works, is positive reinforcement and not punishment in any form. However, how many of us are actually able to do only positive reinforcement? Sometimes we as parents are frustrated and punishment in the form of time outs seems like the best solution. - Alexis 4/21/2010 8:02:43 PM | Flag

My brothers and sisters and I were never physical with each other. Yet my parents never had a problem with (civil) physical discipline. I firmly believe the difference is anger. I never discipline while I'm still hot. I know from experience that your choice of discipline can do a 180 by the time you have a chance to back up and regroup. - shewolf 4/24/2010 10:26:29 AM | Flag

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Answered by cameciob {299}
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4/22/2010 11:54:05 PM

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I only spanked my daughter once because she wasn't listening and putting herself in danger over and over again. She cried all night long. For me, the time out didn't work either. Instead, we told her we would call grandma or her day care provider (persons she really loves and, perhaps, respects) and that worked. Some other times I told her that I would cut off the time at the park, or I would bring her favourite toys back to the store. In fact, at the beginning, I had to hide one of her toys for more then two years to make myself believable.

What really worked was this: anytime she did something that she shouldn't have done I called her by me to have a conversation, me, explaining her why wasn't good and she, listening and getting very, very bored. It is still working today, at 6 years old.

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Answered by Kandi Sue Vincent {15}
11/15/2010 12:17:09 PM

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In our house with our mischievous 2 1/2 year old, it depends on the behaviour - sometimes a timeout will work, however if she is doing something dangerous and does not stop as soon as we tell her NO DANGER then she gets a smack on the hand and sometimes the bottom. She has a fascination with cords and plugs so sometimes it is all of the above.

She actually hate the t/o more as she must face a wall, and we turn our backs on her too when she is really bad. We also try to explain why she is being punished.

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		Leshaun Lofton Both depends on the situation. Monday, November 15, 2010

		Tina Kiene Curtis I have done both and they both have worked. Typically I go for time out first and if it doesn`t work a spanking and even a nap has been successful instead of any punishment. It all depends on what my child did. Monday, November 15, 2010

		Sherri Brown It doesn`t matter if you use either as long as your child knows you mean what you say and say what you mean. It is very important to be consistent. Monday, November 15, 2010

		Jeannine Scionti-Stahl Spanking will only lead to delinquincy when they get older I definitely do not spank my child not one bit but, my voice risies like the top of the mountain when I need to and would prefer to do that than to inflict any kind of pain onto my child and it will make him only think that this is how things should be handled. If problems still exist then I would seek out the pediatrician or a counselor for help in having your child iunderstand what is right and wrong without inflicting any kind of pai Monday, November 15, 2010

		Jeannine Scionti-Stahl Good Topic. Monday, November 15, 2010

		Jackie Hassan Time outs and losing favorite toys always works. For my 3 year old I put a certain toy on top of the fridge if he wont sit in time out his favorite toy does it always seems to work. My 9 year old will be given a chore like dusting or folding laundry (which he hates) if time out doesnt work. I aways try new things with discipline but a behavior chart also really works. We hand out fake money to our kids at the end of each week that they get to turn in for speical things like extra time at bed Monday, November 15, 2010

		Sheri Tyler-Ballard Spankings........ look around and see what childern are doing today, drugs, fighting and sex. It has gotten so bad because parents are scared to spank. When I was a little on through my teenage years kids didn`t like the way they do now because we knew if we got in trouble, when we got home a spanking was awaiting us. I`m not saying spankings are the way to go but don`t knock spanking because they use to work. However, to each their own. What works for some may not work for other. But I spanked Monday, November 15, 2010

		Karen Wachenheim I usually go with time outs or the loss of a favorite item or dessert etc. Always be consistent and don`t give in!!! Monday, November 15, 2010

		Laura Jennings Spanking is not necessary for most children/situations... a lot to be said for quiet authority -- the keyword is consistency & children do need firm structure & rules to keep their self esteem intact. Monday, November 15, 2010

		Maria Coral Spanking if its needed that`s the problem now in days with kids I do time out too? Monday, November 15, 2010