How old is too old?

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Personally, I think a freshman in high school is too young to date on her own to begin with. I would encourage dating in a group setting rather than private dates, as there are too many situations a young girl can get herself into at that age. Of course, they can get themselves into such situations at any age, but a couple years can do wonders for their self-esteem and ability to stand up for themselves and realize appropriate and inappropriate behavior. I would not want my fourteen or fifteen year old daughter dating a boy who is seventeen or eighteen, not only because the relationship does not have potential for anything much in the future, but also because she is simply too young to be in a relationship with a boy who is probably much more well versed in the game of dating.

I am going to agree with Alexis here. I fell in love with a 24 year old guy when I was just barely 16. Even one or two dates is enough for a freshman to fall head over heels, trust me because I did! Once you're hooked it is nothing short of heart-wrenching to face reality. Group dates would be the best idea here. Private dates need to be earned, in my opinion, for the physical and emotional safety of both kids involved. - shewolf 4/24/2010 11:14:17 PM | Flag

Amen, shewolf. A freshman's heart is way too tender and inexperienced to risk being with such an older guy. I can remember my own heartache at around that age. Ooh, how it hurt. Good advice! - abbamom123 5/15/2010 10:55:07 PM | Flag

Answered by thepurplehairednanny {216}
4/28/2010 12:03:06 AM

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What does an 18 year old college-bound guy, want with a 14 year old girl? Certainly not marriage. I think looking at relationship from his perspective will help you come with some conclusions. What are his motives/intentions? What future does he see in the relationship? What role does his college career play in the relationship? I do agree with the person that said meeting the guy is advisable. Ask him the same questions. A respectable guy will have good honest answers, and not BSed crap.

Answered by Dani {163}
4/26/2010 11:02:25 AM

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I also agree that being a Freshman, she can easily fall in love, or what she thinks is love. She will become completely head over heels over this senior, especially since he is so much older. I remember when I was her age thinking of cool it was to be with someone that was so much older then me. I wouldn't want to tell her not to see the guy either - possibly inviting him over for dinner with the family. That way you would be able to meet him and see how you feel about him. I wouldn't want them to be going on dates alone. Perhaps express your feelings to your daughter so she doesn't try to go behind your back to see him.

Answered by Panini {160}
4/20/2010 9:23:41 PM

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I dont think it would hurt to let her go on a date possibly even a few if it works and hes respectable and doesnt do anything that would raise any red flags, at this age they are young and the odds of them getting serious are slim, but I dont think it would hurt to let her try and have a little bit of fun.