How do I as a mother in law

Asked by lighthousemt {324}
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5/31/2010 9:39:00 PM

I love my daughter in law very much, she and my son have been married 11 years, i do not interfere in theirs lives, they have blessed me with two grandsons, yet there seems to be a wall up. In all this time she has never called me on the phone just to see how I am, nor stopped my my home on her own, she knows she is welcome? I have prayed and prayed, I am at a loss?

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Answered by MomOfFive {297}
6/2/2010 7:50:16 PM

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As difficult as it seems, and unfair too, keep on keepin on. Give your love unconditionally, and keep on praying. God is good, and someday your loving and giving will break thru.

Thanks momof5, I believe that He will. - lighthousemt 6/9/2010 4:13:59 PM | Flag

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Answered by smileandlearn {158}
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6/9/2010 4:00:40 AM

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This is a hard question as it causes so much pain for so many people on both sides of the question. I always said I would treat my in law children like my own. I did not understand that there is a certain background needed to be able to do this. Does you son call or come by to visit? You may also need to find someone else to come visit you as you keep praying for a better friendship with your daughter in law. There are so many moms out there who need a friend.

My son does call and comes by when he can, that is not the issue. I have friends who visit and I visit. I guess God will be the one to set me straight, thanks so much for your reply - lighthousemt 6/9/2010 4:11:32 PM | Flag

please do not be too hard on yourself. you may be doing all you can and life may just be what it is right now. - smileandlearn 6/10/2010 1:43:07 AM | Flag

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